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How do you get rid of that pesky bully?
There are several ways to defend your self and stop all that harassment.  I believe the best way to help deal with a bully is tell someone.  It could be a friend, a parent, a sibling, even a teacher.  Just make sure to tell someone what is going on.  If you keep it to your self your bully problem will never go away.  If this bully is really bothering you and you don't know how to get rid of him, talk to someone get ideas, get support!

Another positive non-violent way to get rid of  a bully is ignore them, and walk away.  As i said in one of my earlier posts.  The bully fiends of your hurt emotions.  Don't give them that satisfaction.  If bullies realize that they aren't upsetting  you they will usually stop.  Sometimes though bullies do get clever and try different methods of harassment.  Stay strong!  Keep walking away and keep ignoring them, at this point bullies will get bored.

Confidence is key.  A bully aims his harassment at those who are insecure and self-conscious.  They are the easiest targets and the most emotionally unstable.  Like a lion hunting a wounded zebra, an easy kill!.  Stay confident, be proud of yourself at all times and more times than not the bully will find it hard to make fun of you.  If you are still being harassed be sure to stand up for yourself and make sure that bully doesn't do it again.

Smile in the eyes of your enemies

Is bullying effective if it doesn't bother or harass the person its aimed towards?  The bully is satisfied when your crying, upset or hurt as a result of his insults and violence.  So why not laugh or smile at their insults.  When bullies call you fat, why not laugh instead of cry.    The bullies main objective is to see you upset, don't let them.   As time goes by the bully will realize his juvenile insults have no effect on you, and in turn will stop harassing you. 

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Just a thought..

Bullies attack others directly.  They tell you what they think of you directly to your face. They are honest and open about what their views, even though they are hurtful.  Now think...Are people that make fun of you behind your back worse than bullies? Is anyone that harasses someone else whether it is directly to them or behind their backs considered a bully? So are bullies essentially better people than ones who judge you behind your back?

That Hit A Nerve!

It seems like bullies know exactly how to piss you off or upset you.  They focus on you weaknesses and imperfections and target your self-esteem.  Bullies know exactly how to get under you skin, and hit that sensitive nerve.

http://www.youthvoiceproject.com/YVPMarch2010.pdf
Stan Davis and Charisse Nixon did a study involving almost 12000 5th-12th grade students about bullies and what they focus on. Students were given a survey and were allowed to answer more than once.  Fifty five percent of those students said when they were bullied it was because of thier looks and 37 percent of these students said it was because of their body shape . Bullies realize that looks and body shape are usually the main aspect of peoples insecurities, and tend to target those characteristics more.

Bullies also harass anyone that is a minority that is in any way, shape, or form out of the ordinary.  If your family is very wealthy, your seen as the snobby rich kid, or very poor your the poor kid who wears the same thing everyday.  If your lesbian or gay, you are treated as a freak and seen as disgusting.  Only African American kid at school, your automatically a gangster. Bullies pinpoint your differences and judge you because of them.

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